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Take a Break


There is always a need to take a break from the weeks activities. It is a good thing to be diligent to your studies and hardworking but it becomes bad when you begin to work yourself into a pile of dust hoping you would find time to rest during the weekend but weekend rest is never enough.

The need to balance yourself when you notice you are overscheduled is very important.
Overscheduling most times happen as a result of competition, every lady wants to be better than her peers in every aspect and therefore create a tight timetable putting little or no time for rest.

Overscheduled students find it hard to spend time on their own not to talk of hanging out with friends.

The very moment you begin to draw up daily or weekly plans adding little or no time at all for rest, you are overscheduled.

According to health practitioners, students need about 9hours of sleep to be alert and attentive during the day. Lack of enough rest results in fatigue, illness, poor concentration, mood swings and behavioral problems.

*”I derive no joy in having fun with friends or hanging out not to talk of sitting idle in the sport center and watching athletes train, I prefer to spend my time on the internet learning new things or reading my books”*Beatrice a 300 level student of Mass Communication department said. Beatrice lives her life in a serious manner meaning she is overscheduled, she shut herself from every class group and leaves immediately a class ends, she is not ready to mix up because she feels it is a waste of time but health wise she is harming herself.

Students actually need time to be alone with themselves, learn about themselves and see things from a different perspective, but there is always the need to be in company of other people instead of overscheduling yourself. This will help honour time and protect it to stay in balance.

Ladies: This is the Only Way You Can Achieve Financial Freedom


There are many ways a lady can gain wealth. A lady’s power does not lie between her thighs, believing it does disempowers the lady. Many atimes, ladies stoop so low to the point of using their bodies to make money, this is unnecessary because as a lady, you possess so many hidden skills.

Ladies have refused to search deeply into themselves and find themselves out, they are not experts at managing their own finances and end up broke. Back in my 100 level days, my roommates were desperate to get anything called money but the fact is they hard skills within them they were not ready to make use of.

As a lady, you should know yourself completely, what you are capable of doing and what you are not capable of doing. There are many ways to get yourself some cash instead of settling for cheap means. Learn to bring out the best in yourself.

The blogger Linda Ikeji didn’t get rich overnight, she faced so many challenges but despite the circumstances, she scaled through because she didn’t limit herself to bring poor, she believes she could and would get rich and she achieved her goal.

Ladies this days say they can’t do cheap handiworks like hairdressing, tailoring and the likes yet they complain of money problems. The easiest way to make it in life is to do what you are good at. Hairdressers and Tailors this days are making it big time.

When you limit yourself to one thing, you will not reach your goal. You do not have to sacrifice your body to make money for yourself because men give respect to women who keep their dignity. No man is ready to end up with a second hand material therefore, ladiesmake use of your time.

There are times you will run dry, think of what you can do best and do it to make money for yourself. Money should never be a problem in a ladies life, because she has hidden potentials to get her cash at the top of a finger.

How to Be a Successful African Woman


Successful people do not sit in a spot and expect good things to come their way, they work their way to success. The road to success is rough therefore to attain that goal of yours, you have to work really hard, only through hard work and determination can one reach the top.

Discipline is the first thing to take to heart, one has to stay disciplined and study hard to reach that rank. The best students in class would not be the best if they are not well disciplined with their studies. A successful students shuns every form of distraction.
Recently, my friend and I decided to eat in an eatery after several hours of study, she didn’t have much on her so I decided to save money, I ordered for something cheaper than what i wanted, that got me thinking ” what exactly do we settle for in our lives because they seem easier or cheaper than what we really want?”

The truth is, to reach the top or attain your goal, you have to go for what motivates you, do not settle for less. Think about what motivates and drives you, what makes you feel fulfilled.
Also, be aware of your value and purpose. Everyone is created differently, never try to be like someone and never compare yourself to someone else. Be the best at who you already are, ‘follow you passion’ that’s the word.

Life is hard and nothing of value is ever handed to us. Pain and discomfort are part of the process. Learn to struggle and never feel entitled to anything you did not swear or struggle for “your struggle builds your muscle”. Push past your fear, never use excuses and learn to roll up your sleeves.

Utilize materials that helps expand your knowledge base. Do well to also take advise from those at the top, that will force you to push yourself harder to reach the top.
Always go for your goals and never settle for second best.
Next time, I’ll order what i really want to eat.

More so, everyone has that talent that is untapped, make use of it.
Winners would always be winners because they do what winners do. No winner is a victim of circumstances because they take circumstances as new opportunities. The difference between the winner and the loser is not intelligence but drive and initiative.

No matter how scared a successful person might be, he makes sure he achieve his goal ‘do it scared’ and by doing it, you will create a momentum that will lead to progress and results.
Everyone wants to see himself or herself at the top, they want to succeed by hook or crook, but dubious means would do you no good, like I said earlier, only through hard work and determination can you reach the top therefore work hard, think high and dream big.

Ladies! Six Lies You Should Never Tell Yourself


Many a times, you tend to be too hard on yourself as a lady and say so many negative things to yourself. When you tell yourself a lot of negative things, you begin to believe them. You know these things are not true and you shouldn’t give in. The best thing you can do to yourself is to see the best in you.

Lie # 6: I have a bad posture

Most girls are too conscious of themselves especially when they walk with their peers, they think their steps are horrible, their posture is nothing to write home about. The answer is simple, stand up straight and keep that confidence going strong.

Lie # 5: No one wants to be my friend

This is actually the biggest lie you would tell yourself. There is always someone out there who admired you and wants to be like you. “I never knew someone liked me this much to the extent of wanting to be my friend” Simi, a final year student of political science once said to me after being told her attitude was loved . Never call yourself a loner, try meeting new people, there are people out there that share something in common with you.

Lie # 4: I’m not smart

There is no “madam perfect” out there, everyone has their flaws. Nobody is good at everything. I realized during a discussion test that the smartest girl in my class was never really smart, she worked her way into making everyone believe she was that smart. When you find yourself struggling with a course, never be too proud to ask for help, you would be helping yourself, and who knows, you could also be helping that person helping you help yourself.

Lie # 3: I’m not attractive

Common, why focus on the negative. The calendar models you see here and there are not the real them, never think they are perfect. Look for that positive thing in you, your good legs, your flawless face, your contagious smile or your perfect eyes.
Remember, you are wonderfully and beautifully made by God.

I never believed I was beautiful until an admirer(My crush) told me I had always been his secret admirer, trust I felt so good. But never wait for someone to tell you how beautiful you are, always believe you are beautiful. Say to yourself I AM BEAUTIFUL.

Lie # 2: I am too short or too tall

Why complain about your height? Do you want to be short of you are tall or vice versa? It’s all the same, no matter the height, you can’t control it, never allow others intimidate you with their height, you will always be the perfect you. “LOVE YOURSELF”.

Lie # 1: No one understands me

Do you really care if someone understands you? Why care so much about something you should give little or no thoughts to. The fact is you understand yourself, so with that, it is left to whoever wants to understand you . I will always repeat, ” the best person you can always be is you”

Back Home to Mogadishu: Meet Somalia’s First and Only Female Pilot


“I could not believe that I was actually in Mogadishu. I looked at the ocean, raised my hands up and inhaled the fresh, natural and unpolluted air. It was a magical moment,” these were the exact words of 59-year-old Asli Hassan Abade, Somali’s first and only female pilot.

Abade left Somalia in the 1970s to train as a pilot in Italy and later moved to the United States. She returned to her native land to join the Somali Air Force and started flying planes in 1976.

Africa News reports that she visited Somalia in July 2017 for the second time in six years. In 2011 she flew into Mogadishu to deliver medical supplies to the Forlanini (Lazaretto) Children’s Hospital as the country was grappling with its worst famine in many years.
Somalia’s Foreign Affairs Press and Public Relations wing led the congratulatory messages for Abade.

“I did not have the liberty to move around Mogadishu like I am doing now, or talk to the media.

“There were several former colleagues, officers and pilots, waiting to receive me at the airport. I cried, and they all got emotional and cried with me. When I stepped out of the plane, I first kissed the ground, she said.

Somalia was ranked 5th in a poll showing the worst places in the world to be a woman because women still face issues like female genital manipulation, famine, drought etc.

Women in Somalia form a key part of Somali society, with clearly defined and important roles in the family and clan structure.

Only Strength Births Strength: How Serena William’s Letter to Mum is an Inspiration for All of Us


In an emotional and all said out loud letter to her mum, Serena Williams praises the  fortitude and strength of the black woman through her mum who quite frankly represents all black mums in the world.

On her reddit page, she wrote,

“Dear Mom,

You are one of the strongest women I know. I was looking at my daughter (OMG, yes, I have a daughter 😳) and she has my arms and legs! My exact same strong, muscular, powerful, sensational arms and body. I don’t know how I would react if she has to go through what I’ve gone through since I was a 15 year old and even to this day.

I’ve been called man because I appeared outwardly strong. It has been said that that I use drugs (No, I have always had far too much integrity to behave dishonestly in order to gain an advantage). It has been said I don’t belong in Women’s sports — that I belong in Men’s — because I look stronger than many other women do. (No, I just work hard and I was born with this badass body and proud of it).

But mom, I’m not sure how you did not go off on every single reporter, person, announcer and quite frankly, hater, who was too ignorant to understand the power of a black woman.

I am proud we were able to show them what some women look like. We don’t all look the same. We are curvy, strong, muscular, tall, small, just to name a few, and all the same: we are women and proud!

You are so classy, I only wish I could take your lead. I am trying, though, and God is not done with me yet. I have a LONG way to go, but thank you.

Thank you for being the role model I needed to endure all the hardships that I now regard as a challenges–ones that I enjoy. I hope to teach my baby Alexis Olympia the same, and have the same fortitude you have had.

Promise me, Mom, that you will continue to help. I’m not sure if I am as meek and strong as you are yet. I hope to get there one day. I love you dearly.

Your youngest of five,


Over the course of her career, Serena has faced backlash for her physical strength and looks. Recently, Maria Sharapova in her memoir described Serena as being “much stronger and bigger than you realize watching TV. … She has thick arms and thick legs and is so intimidating and strong. And tall, really tall.”

Serena’s letter will continue to remind us about how we have a responsibility to teach our children to explore their strength, rather than subduing in.

From the streets of Lesotho to Sfax, we are strong powerful women and only strength births strength.


JOBVINE Global – Visa and Passport Requirements for Nigerian Citizens Wanting to Work Abroad


Working abroad has become a common practice among many qualified professionals in Nigeria, but things can often become problematic when travelling to a distant country. Especially once you realise that every country has different requirements when it comes to who they let through their borders.

Each country is different, and if you don’t have a passport for where you’re travelling to, you’ll often have to make use of a Visa. The only problem is figuring out the visa and passport requirements for each country, due to the fact that it’s quite troublesome and time-consuming. That is why JOBVINE has put together a map that makes this process as simple as possible in order to find various travel information, foreign embassies, and anything else you would like to know before you cross foreign borders.

Common reasons why Nigerian citizens are leaving the country: You may have just graduated and are now officially unemployed – or you may be looking to change jobs. It could also simply be the impact of the socio-economic issues of the country…

Well, according to the tradingeconomics, Youth Unemployment Rate in Nigeria averaged 17.51 percent from 2014 until 2016. It went from a record low of 11.70 percent in the fourth quarter of 2014, reaching an all time high of 24.00 percent in the second quarter of 2016. Furthermore, 54% of unemployed Nigerian citizens are younger than 35 years old.

There is no need to allow these undesired stats to demotivate you, since Nigerian citizens will now have easier access to the job market through JOBVINE Nigeria.

For those looking to work abroad, all your possible travel requirements have been broken down and put on a map, so that it’s simple and easy to find. That way, you can continue searching for your next overseas job while still planning your next trip abroad.


A Letter To My Future Wife: Is Gender Equality A Battle Between Males And Females?


It’s been long since I wrote to you. Many are those asking whether I have stopped writing letters to you. This drew my attention to the fact that you are not the only one who has been reading the letters I write to you despite the fact that I always tell you to keep the letters from your friends and course mates.I won’t blame you for making my letters go viral on social media. We are living in an era where letters that are written at night to our loved ones are being brought to the lime light at daytime as a result of rapid growth in technology.

I won’t blame you for making my letters go viral on social media. We are living in an era where letters that are written at night to our loved ones are being brought to the lime light at daytime as a result of rapid growth in technology.

Afia, I write in response to the question you asked a week ago. You asked whether the issue of gender equality is possible in our contemporary world. I will hit the nail right on the head and will be brief as possible. I could feel the pain in your voice when you referred to an incident at Marwako Restaurant where a Lebanese supervisor cruelly dipped the face of a Ghanaian staff Evelyn Boakye in pepper paste. As a matter of fact, it’s always disheartening to hear of such punishments meted out to some women.

Tragic in our permissive society is the amazing frequency and intensity with which some people disregard women. Women in the eye of many, are regarded as the weaker vessels.

Afia, my simple answer to your question is “yes! Gender equality is possible”. I have always held the view that creation would have been incomplete without women in society. Right from creation to our contemporary times, women have proven that they are beyond capable. You proved in the Garden of Eden beyond all reasonable doubt that you can rule and even control men if given the chance.

You demonstrated this by giving the man a fruit of which he could not reject. This is the reason why you do not need to be empowered because you are already powerful. But you should rather be made aware of this strength which you possess as a woman.

In all societies throughout the world, women have risen to occupy key positions to contribute to the development in all facets of life. Women have rubbed shoulders with their male counterparts as engineers, lawyers, ministers of state, teachers, nurses and the high position of the presidency.

The remarkable career success of women across the world is no news to the ordinary Ghanaian. During the period of Nigeria’s struggle for political independence, the positive role played by women like Mrs Flora Azikwe and Margaret Ekpo can never be lost from the memory of their admirers. The unforgettable role played by Yaa Asantewaa in the history of the Ashantis will forever remain fresh in memory. I dare say that her bravery and sheer display of patriotism dwarfed and eclipsed those of her male counterparts. These personalities may be abstract to you. Let me bring you home and cite my mother as an example.  She played the role of a father and a mother by single-handedly taking care of the family.

Afia, men will continue to be men for women to remain women. Don’t misunderstand me. I mean, under no circumstance should females be transformed into males. Our differences as males and females is the cause of our unity.  I hope you do not see me as a chauvinist in the eye of your mind.

To transform a female into a male or the vice versa is to oppose the natural order either by choice or by force. This is where gender equality has been misconstrued. Gender equality is therefore not about “sameness” in terms of sex but about equal access to job opportunities, educational institutions and many more without any segregation based on gender.

Afia, earlier in this letter, I indicated that “Yes! Gender equality is possible”. Every “yes” on planet earth comes with a responsibility. For this revolution to continue to see the light of the day, some negative acts should be eschewed.

Some women accept the juicy opportunity to be half naked or completely naked when they are featured in trending music video of their male counterparts. This act should be consigned into the museum of history. Infact it should be a thing of the past in this 21stcentury. The bitter truth every woman should know is that it is just a cynical ploy on the part of their male counterparts to sell their music to the public.

This act by some ladies will only make women be seen as mere sex objects who are always manipulated by their male counterparts for their personal gains. I believe in a collaborative work especially in this age where fame and money have become the order of the day. But there is always a problem when women have to strip naked in a music video. I see this act, not as creativity but an act to debase the dignity of womanhood.

You are your own woman. I, therefore believe that you will make informed choices anytime the need arises. To be featured in a music video is great and splendid but to be used as an object of sex in that same video should never be an option for any woman in this 21st century.

Afia, it is a truism that what men can do women can do better. Taking cognizance of this dictum, the 21st-century woman should also play lead-role in movies that for a long time have portrayed men as the only heroes and saviours of humanity in all life endeavours. Women should not always be made as the sole beneficiaries of all kind gestures in our movies. There can be movies where men could also be the chief beneficiaries of the good deeds of women. The industry can be rebranded to tell more stories of heroines rather than it always focusing on the bravery of their male counterparts.

Women in the 21st century should be bold to man the affairs of their respective communities and the nation as a whole. The primitive idea that some positions are for only men should be discarded into the dustbins of the Dark Ages.

Afia, I end this letter with the words of one of my finest and prolific writers of all time, the late Efo Kodjo Mawugbe.  In his award-winning book, In the Chest of a Woman, Nana Yaa retorted that “in the chest of a woman is not only the extension of breast and a feeble heart but a flaming desire to possess and use power”.

” Feminism is not about making women strong. Women are already strong. It’s all about changing the way the world perceives that strength”, so says G.D Anderson.

The writer Elvis Effah is a student of University of Cape Coast. He can be contacted via

Let’s Talk About S.EX!



It’s strange that whenever you mention the word ‘SEX’ it grabs everybody’s attention: they drop everything they are doing and want to read more.

Well I’m sorry for misleading you for I’m not about to talk about ‘SEX’ today but about ‘S.EX’ (NB – notice the dot after ‘S’ and before ‘EX’?) which are my acronyms for ‘Super Excellence’.

So let’s talk about Super Excellence.

The English dictionary describes excellence as the quality of being outstanding or extremely good. Super excellence, however, is the art  of pushing yourself to go even further, further than going the proverbial extra mile, being better than the  best.

Already you’re excellent at what you do (I presume) but what if you could become even better?

In his highly acclaimed book ‘the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People’ Steven R Covey lists seven things you can do to be better. These are:

1, Be more proactive.

2, Begin with the end in mind.

3, Put first things first – taking full control and staying disciplined.

4, Think Win-Win – failure is not an option!

5, Learn first learn how to understand and then be understood.

6, Synergize – the habit of creative co-operation – teamwork.

7, Sharpen your saw.

We all know what we are good at so there’s no point in going into that. To be super excellent I’ll narrow these seven habits down to three things anyone can follow.

These are:

1, Time is money – don’t waste it!

2, Work Harder and smarter.

3, Seek Feedback.

Now let’s examine them one by one.

‘Time is money’ is a phrase we are all accustomed to. Once you’ve lost time you’ll never get it back! The secret is to make every minute count – time management. There are 24 hour hours in a day. How much of this do we actually waste on frivolous activities – watching TV, messing about online, social events etc. Say if you were to stay off the internet for an hour less every day that’s one hour gained a day, seven hours over a week and over thirty hours over a month. And this is time that can be put to achieving your goals or whatever you’re working on. Try to come up with a plan to manage your time effectively.

Don’t be like a hamster running on a wheel! The poor little creature is putting in a lot of hard work running on its wheel but it’s not going anywhere! It’s one thing to work hard and  another to work smarter – have a destination! There’s no point in working hard till you’re about to drop if it’s not geared towards achieving a specific goal. Some people spend all their lives working hard and at retirement they have nothing to show for it whereas some people work hard for a few years and they are set for life – work hard but smarter.

Two heads are better than one is a saying we are all familiar with. Nobody knows everything and its best to seek feedback on whatever you’re doing from someone else. Better still make sure it’s a third party person who knows very little about you. That way you can be assured that whatever feedback you receive will be an honest appraisal of your abilities not influenced by familiarity.

So let’s move on to the super excellence part; you’ve invented the wheel – Hurray! But it’s not time to pop a bottle of champagne and rest on your laurels. This is just the beginning! What can the wheel be applied to? Time to get your thinking cap on and think of the next step. And when you work it out that the wheel you have invented can be attached to a cart .What’s next? You either get a donkey to pull it or invent an engine to drive it. Be open to all possibilities.

You keep on evolving. You keep on going forward thinking of new things, broadening your horizons, improving your skills – till you become a Master at what you are doing. Look at it from this point of view; you go to primary school. Then on to secondary school. Then on to university to get your FIRST degree before proceeding to get a second degree, a Masters – why stop? You proceed to get your third degree, a  PhD – is there anything else after a PhD? Probably academically not but you can proceed to become an overall expert in your field. Anything else? You can of course proceed to become an internationally known expert in your field and keep on going till, perhaps, you become…..

There is no limit to how far you can go – don’t set yourself a target as this will only limit you, just keep on going! It’s rumoured we just use less than five per cent of our minds capabilities, now’s the time to start using the remaining unused ninety-five per cent! It can be done as its not impossible.

Being excellent to a high degree elevates you above everybody else; your thinking is different. Your perspective on the world becomes different and you’re able to do more things than most can do in their lifetimes.

You will obviously need to be disciplined, focused, ready to put in a lot of hard work, ready for criticism(-and constructive feedback) and at the end of the day your reward will be the accumulation of knowledge and wisdom beyond anybody’s wildest dreams which can be applied to any aspect of your life.

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3 Things I Learnt on Negotiating about Money

3 things i learnt about money, ayishat amoo

3 things i learnt about money, ayishat amoo

I was a person who didn’t like to talk about what or what not I should be offered or talking about reaching an agreement, especially when it’s about money, on a situation. I didn’t like negotiation or anything that has to do with it. The whole process of questions and answers, as well as debating on issues, puts me off.

I didn’t like to talk about how much I need in order to get something done. Of course, all these has changed because I realised that when I don’t speak up and talk about what I need to talk about to the other person, I might regret it later on.

And so, I started negotiating, I started making the other person see the reasons why something should be done or not.

According to, negotiation means, “mutual discussion and arrangement of the terms of a transaction or agreement”

For business women or entrepreneurs out there, sometimes you might need to negotiate, and here 3 things I recently learnt about negotiation:

  1. If it’s not Okay, Speak: this was one of the things that I didn’t usually do. I used to feel like if I talked about how I felt concerning a proposition to some people, they might perceive me in some kind of way. Before now, I don’t usually talk when an offer or a proposition isn’t okay, and then later on after accepting the offer, I used to ask myself why I didn’t talk when I needed to. And so, if what you are being offered is something you know isn’t what the person ought to be offering you, talk about it with the person. I used to be shy, so this was an area I didn’t use to like, but I learnt to deal with it. For instance, if you are to offer your services to a company, whether you are to help them with the interior design of their company or if you are to supply them with goods, and you are being offered less than it is needed to do the things you want to do, talk about it with the company. Don’t just talk about it; let them see why they need to pay you the right amount. As a business woman, whether entrepreneurs or SME owners, don’t be intimidated by the company or organisation, speak out and talk when you need to.
  2. Charge what you Need to Charge: another thing is that you need to charge the amount you need to charge for your goods or services. Don’t feel intimidated by what someone else will think. If you need a required amount of money to get something done, request for the money.
  3. Offer a Reasonable Price: you also need to offer a reasonable price and make sure you aren’t asking for an unrealistic amount. Sometimes you and the other person might need to meet halfway, which might be a win-win situation.

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