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Linda Ikeji’s Love Letter to Her Unborn Son is a Must Read for All Millennial Women

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The popular blogger wrote an instagram post on her love for babies and her expectations for her unborn son. The happy mother to be who is currently in the United States of America is awaiting the birth of her son has been sharing her joy on social media.

She mentioned her babysitting years and the joy she felt when her siblings started having babies and how she is still finding it hard to believe that her own baby is almost here.

I love children so much. I’m particularly obsessed with babies. I grew up in a compound with a lot of neighbours and believe it or not, as a teenager/young woman, I was the unofficial resident babysitter. I swear, ask my siblings. I literally carried all the newborn babies born in that compound at a period of time until they grew up to a certain age. Their mums used to come drop the babies at our house whenever they were tired or wanted to go out, this was, of course, to the annoyance of my family..lol. .

The first baby I carried was a boy named Makoba (wonder where he is now, this was about 20yrs ago). From the first day I carried him, I didn’t want to let him go. So every time I had free time, and his mum hadn’t brought him to me, I would walk two floors up, knock on his family’s door and ask them if they wanted me to take the child off them for a while. I was always happy when they said yes. After him other mums started dropping their kids with me. .

Back then my sisters and I used to take turns to cook every day of the week. So whenever it was my turn to cook and I was babysitting and they insisted I go cook, I’d tell my sisters to either hold the baby for me so I could go cook or they go cook. They always chose the latter. Lol.
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Then my siblings started having children & I started to feel more joy. These were no longer neighbours’ or friends’ children, these were my nephews and nieces. My family! And carrying them brought me even more joy. If I was planning to go out and I heard my beautiful nephews and niece were coming over to the house, most times, I change plans and just stay home with them. There’s no greater joy for me than being around them .

So now imagine soon I will look down at a baby, and it won’t be a neighbor’s child, a friend’s child, a sister’s child, but my own child, my own flesh and blood, carried in my womb. My own son. It’s surreal. I can’t get over it. .
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Dear son, you are my greatest dream realized and I can’t wait to meet you! I plan to be one of the best mums the world has ever seen. Thanks for choosing me ❤
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Sometimes I wonder what he will look like. His dad is tall, dark and handsome and I’m cute too so fingers crossed 😍😂

Tiwa Savage’s Rant About Being A Millennial African Woman is Spot On

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Being a Millenial African woman has a lot of downsides. Even celebrities feel the brunt. No achievement is enough, you are measured on the same scale. Making history or remaking it doesn’t cut it.

Millenial African Women have to bear the brunt of judgement on scales of marital life and having a “man over your head.”

Tiwa wrote “tired of proving me,” who wouldn’t be. While people celebrate her success, they also reprimand her marital life. We hear rumours like she is dating Wiz Kid. On one of the biggest nights of her career, the news still had to be about her husband, Tunji Balogun popularly known as Tee Billz.

For the Millenial African Woman, fame and fortune are never enough, there has to be a man linked to your success or else that success will be misconstrued by the society.

Amongst ourselves, we have to deal with the haters who point out how many times you have been single and how your inability to find a smart, intelligent caring man you can spend the rest of your life with is your fault.

Haters remind you, they compare you, each and every single day. As an unmarried Millenial African woman who is also an entrepreneur, I have had to deal with neighbours asking me when I am getting married, clients teasing me about getting a man.

It is never enough that you are successful in your career, the only justification for success if having a husband.

I know a couple of Millenial African women who cannot buy a car even when they can afford to buy three because according to societal standards, a woman who has a car and isn’t married won’t get a husband.

Tiwa Savage Selling Out O2 Arena is a Triumph for African Female Musicians

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Tiwa Savage sold out the Indigo at the O2 Arena, in London, United Kingdom. It was a classic night of savage music and dance.

Tiwa even perfomed while holding her son Jamil on stage. The Savage Tour had tickets sold out hours before the event.

The Indigo is 3k capacity and the event had opening acts from the mavin family  from Don Jazzy to Reekado Banks, D’ija and Dr Sid.

In recent times, this is the first time a female African artiste will be headlining a tour that attracts this kind of crowd.

It’s an incredible win for every female artise coming out of African hoping to thrill the world with her brand of music.

Girls are not sex objects, says ex beauty queen, Chioma Obiadi

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Immediate past Miss Nigeria, Chioma Obiadi, has advised young girls and women to flaunt their gender with dignity to protect them against being used as sex objects.

Obiadi spoke with the News Agency of Nigeria (NAN) on Saturday in Lagos on her pet project, “Green Girl”, which projected decency and dignity of the female gender.
She said that it was wrong for young girls and women to be seen as sex objects by the men folks in the society.

“I think it is completely wrong for women to be seen as sexual objects by the men folk in the society, it is totally degrading and terrible.

“Those men who see girls as sex objects are opportunists who capitalise on the weakness of female gender and use it for their selfish interests,” she said.

According to her, many girls fall victims out of desperation for wealth or positions which can be avoided through self-development and achievement.

The 24-year-old beauty queen reminded girls that their bodies were meant to be the temple of God which must not be defiled but accorded some respect.

Chioma, a Geography student of Nnamdi Azikiwe University, Awka, Anambra, frowned at the manner some girls threw themselves at men who capitalised on their weaknesses.

“It is really disheartening to see the way some of our girls flaunt themselves on men just to get one favour or the other from them.

“Those who go into such acts are not good representation of the female gender and as such I advise ladies to display serious mindedness.

“There is no situation you cannot overcome through self-achievement, no need to look for short cut with selling of your God made temple, we must stop it,”she said.

She noted that if ladies could carry themselves with dignity, no man would be able to abuse them or bastardised their womanhood.

“In all of these, I think women should say ‘no to nudity’ and then the men would have no choice than to follow suit in maintaining a sane relationship with women,” she said.

On her pet project, Chioma said she had gone round schools where she spoke with young girls and boys on keeping themselves and their environment clean, decent and disciplined. (NAN)

Here is How Female Characters Shaped Avengers Infinity War

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Infinity War is probably the biggest movie of 2018 asides from Black Panther and here is how the female characters shaped the movie.

In an interview with Polygon, Trinh Tran, the studio’s director of production and development said

“We really wanted to shine a spotlight on our female heroes, showing how they are as strong as their male counterparts. This was the best decision we could make for the movie. In a weird way, it shows how our heroes support each other’s unique backgrounds and mirrors Marvel’s work environment — where we are always striving to support women and embrace diversity.”

On a mission to collect all six Infinity Stones, Thanos plans to use the artifacts to inflict his twisted will on reality. The fate of the planet and existence itself has never been more uncertain as everything the Avengers have fought for has led up to this moment.

 

7 Quotes About Being a Woman From Aretha Franklin

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Aretha Franklin performing on the ‘VH1 Divas Live: The One and Only Aretha Franklin’ at Radio City Music Hall in New York City, 4/9/01. The show airs live on VH1 on Tuesday, April 11, 2001 at 9:00PM EST. Photo by Scott Gries/ImageDirect.

Music Legend Aretha Franklin who recently died has been celebrated for her songs and what she represented to black women all over the world. Here are her seven famous quotes on being a woman.

On Respect

“Everybody wants respect. In their own way, three-year-olds would like respect, and acknowledgment, in their terms.”

Body Image

“Who hasn’t had a weight issue? If not the body, certainly the big head!”

Power of Women

“As women, we do have it. We have the power. We are very resourceful. Women absolutely deserve respect. I think women and children and older people are the three least-respected groups in our society.”

On Parenting

“My children have been wonderful. Times when they have been down, they lifted me up. But once they pass a certain age, their independence begins to kick in … you have to learn when to let go. And that’s not easy.”

“Natural Woman”

“I didn’t think my songs would become anthems for women. But I’m delighted. Women probably immediately feel compassion and relate to the lyrics. We can all learn a little something from each other, so whatever people can take and be inspired by where my music is concerned is great.”

Beyonce

“She is a worker, like all Virgos, and I appreciate that. Bootylicious. Oh yes, I want to get me some of that.”

Love

“Falling out of love is like losing weight. It’s a lot easier putting it on than taking it off.”

Show Off Queen, Laura Ikeji Justifies Why She Flaunts Her Riches

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A long history of poverty definitely makes you flaunt your wealth whenever you acquire it. Laura Ikeji in a recent instagram post explained the logic behind her daily show off and she even added a justification that is hard to argue with.

Most comments follwoing the post encouraged show off. Popular musician, Dencia in her comment wrote But if Dangote didn’t show off, how have I seen his house inside out on the Internet including bedroom? How do we know his net worth? It’s always broke people who complain abt how others live their lives & show off what they have. Wether u grew up rich or poor, u gotta do u, not what people want u to do.

One beauty_kitchen also wrote

@lauraikeji abi ooo. The people that are complaining about you showing off are envious and jealous. Because if you are genuinely happy for someone, you won’t have any problem with them showing off. You would be upset that they didn’t let you know and give you the opportunity to rejoice with them. Show off all you want, because those people that are complaining wish they could. And they would if they could. So they’re mad cause they can’t.

3 Life Lessons Every Lady Should Learn from Davido’s Nwa Baby

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The 30 Billion Boss, Davido himself has released another blockbuster music video, pardon my french titled “Nwa Baby,” the song tells the story of a gangster armed lady who locked up Davido’s heart, used him for her personal gain and eventually let him go when lost interest in him.

As ladies, we tend to be so clingy we forget that we actually hold the keys to a guy’s heart. Now I am not saying you should use and dump a guy, that is just absolutely savage.

Men often make us think that they make the rules and they can do whatever in a relationship, when in actual reality, we hold the keys to their hearts and there is absolutely nothing anyone can do about it.

“What is my, what is my crime?
Buy you don thief my, don thief my heart
What if I, what if I die?
You must be a bomb o, you blow my, you blow my mind
No be my, no be my mind
But you don change my, don change my plan”

Nwa Baby held Davido’s heart in such a way that she even got him to drive the getaway car when she robbed a store, she was so bold and assertive to the extent that she was not afraid to dance Shaku Shaku at a local bar in broad daylight and at the end, she knew it was time to cut it off and move on.

First lesson

When a man is truly in love with you, he will do anything for you but to get there, you have to make him love you. You have to be amazing enough to make him love you.

Second Lesson

Fear will not get you anywhere, be bold and assertive, never be afraid to take what you want. I am not saying take up armed robbery, I am just saying don’t be afraid to go after what you want. A lot of you are still stuck in jobs you hate because of fear, don’t let fear eat you up. Make a boss move today and be grateful forever.

Third lesson

Know when to cut a guy off, yes a lot of you are still in abusive relationships because you couldn’t figure out when to cut the guy off. Cut him off if you have to, you will be better for it in the end.

Teniola Apata’s Graduation Breaks the Myth of Uneducated Musicians in Nigeria

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Few weeks ago, Teniola Apata graduated from University of Georgia and to mark the celebration, she posted this amazing song on Instagram.

There is a myth in the Nigerian music industry that has prevented majority of them from completing their degrees or getting any other degree other than secondary school leaving certificate.

The myth states that you cannot become a successful musician and also have a degree. This the reason why many young stars drop out of higher institutions or not even opt for one because they have been conditioned to believe that being a drop out will boost your rep in the entertainment industry.

The trend is so popular that any young aspiring musician you find on the street will tell you that education is a waste of time especially when pursing a career in music.

Thankfully, we have a few role models like Falz, Simi, Niniola and the likes who have degrees and yet they also have successful music careers.

 

 

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